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I asked my daughter if she invited her dad to her EAL finals for shot put and her nonchalant answer was "I told him NOT to come." "What?" I asked somewhat surprised at her answer. I mean, the answer I was looking for and expecting after years of asking was "He said he has to work" or the ever popular "maybe." Certainly, not that she asked him not to come. Her answer to my why question left me

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I have been there. I have felt the same pain. I have used the kleenex. I have cried the tears. Today, I am the one with the kleenex box in hand out stretched to my little one who is feeling the pangs of love in limbo.No matter their age, our children feel real pain when they are hurt. The tender heart of a teen is no less wounded than the heart of a divorcing mom or dad.What makes my heart heavy

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If you are a follower of All About Divorce, don't miss out of the Snarkey Evolution on my other blog. Check out my evolution as I write my newest book: In The Meantime~ Ten Habits To Develop While You Are Losing Weight.

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For many divorced parents, every other Thanksgiving leaves them feeling ungrateful. Most divorced families share their children on an every-other holiday basis. This translates to one year feeling elated and full of the holiday spirit, and the next, alone and empty feeling.Holidays are important times for families, but fear not, you can have a happy time. There is no law that says you have to

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As a certified life coach, one of my specialties is divorce coaching. Whenever I work with men I find that they have so many issues with their past relationships that they have lost touch with how best to communicate and resonate with a woman. The pain of the divorce affects their thoughts and perceptions about women in general and clouds their judgment. After working through their beliefs about

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I have been doing a lot of divorce coaching lately and I feel compelled to say that I am working with more and more clients who may not actually need to take such drastic action.As I listen to their divorce story, I hear so clearly the one thing missing from their lives - quality communication. As I listen to the hurt, anger and anxiety over the divorce, I hear the undertone of "he just doesn't

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1. Not being able to share my child's superstar moments with her dad. I miss not being able to high five her father when she makes the point, breaks the record or takes the lead. I miss being robbed of the joy in sharing the fact that we made this child. It is our blood running through her veins. I hate how the politics of new marriages and bad blood keep us from being able to relish the moments

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Often times when we are in the throws of divorce, we are faced to make choices. Sometimes these choices are not choices we should be making at the time. Often times we are so consumed with emotion that we are unable to make sane, rational changes. That happened to me many years ago and I am here to tell you that all this time, I am being affected. I do not want you to live this and so I am

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My team and I will have a booth at the Wednesday night market in front of the courthouse. Come and meet me and the gang: Rhonda, Diane and "Supa J" Justin. Our first CD is available for $10.00

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I have been a step-parent, kind of am a step-parent once removed, and my child has a step-parent. I was a step-child and I know a lot of people who were rasied by step-parents. I have friends who were step-parents and I have family who were step-parents and step-children. So, I think that with this life experience behind me I can speak a little bit about step-parenting.Here are my top ten sure

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One of the key reasons that exes can no longer get along after the dust has settled boils down to trust. Remember back to the day that you stood before God and everyone you could afford to have at your reception that you would be with that person for the rest of your life? Remember the hopes and dreams that welled up in your heart that day? As the bonds broke and you faced the end of your union,

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When you are separated from someone that you loved, it is difficult, no matter what the circumstances. Even if you left them, even if they did something heinous, you are still in mourning. Most people find that when they make the separation, a lot of people in their effort to support them encourage them to "move on" or "let go." Great ideas and advice, in theory, but the truth is that the

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Why is money such a struggle for divorced parents? It has to do with the representation of power as it equates to the money.When couples divorce, they want to cut all their ties to one another. They want to be free and independant of the controls they felt the other had on them. Child support represents control. I have known a few people who not only took care of their children as financially

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No matter how many times you and your ex iron out issues among yourselves, things will still come up. Even the most congenial of exes have their moments. The key to withstanding the occasional flare up is to take a deep breath and ride the wave. You are not at your ex's mercy and you do not have to react to them.Here are a few ways to maintain your cool when things feel strained.1. Screen your

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We're up and running with our new Snarky Evolution blog......Check it out!

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Here are two journal entries from a "nice guy" as he went through his divorce and then found what he had always been looking for. Notice his transition from anger and pain to happiness.January 2006Why nice guys love superman Every one knows the nice guy. He is the one who comes over to your house when your boyfriend cheats on you. He is the one who sat and watched the chick flick with you cuz

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"These last weeks, I have felt torn about who I really am. The truth is this: I am a fairly snarky ("snarky" and "sparkle" are my two most favorite words) person, and I have a pretty good way with sarcasm, wordsmithing, and looking within myself. As a multitude of emails to Diane can attest to, my realizations of all that I know about success come from endless reading, my vigilant search to "know

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I realize that not everything is always as it seems. I have learned that during times of stress in my divorce there are more factors at play than my narrow focus can accept. I realize that when I think I am the only one who is struggling, that is not always the case. But sometimes . . . isn't a duck a duck?If your spouse pulls on the compassion strings and tells you that he is so affected by the

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I was told about this great opportunity to get the education you always wanted. Check out Project Working Mom (and Dad's too)

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I was waking my daughter up this morning and she did this "thing." It was a thing that her dad used to do when we were married. I imagine that he does it now too, I am just not there to see it. When she was doing it, I was reflecting on him, even after all this time, I am reminded because of her. It was nice.Then, I tried to get my oldest up and out of bed and it was a struggle. I was reminded

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OK - it has been a long time since I have posted on this blog and there are many reasons why. For the longest time, I was simply a single mom, then I was a step-mom for a mili-second, and then I was a single mom again, and now I am back in the waters of the blended family soup. It feels like stone soup.Remember the story of stone soup? The story goes that a man who is hungry convinces a town to

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I hope you survived the holi-daze, as I call it. The most poniant thing that I realized this year is that blended families face extra stress at the holidays.The experience that made an impact in our home is the "haves" and the "have nots." Due to the fact that each of our children now have multiple Christmases at multiple homes, it can create fall out when we are all together. Greed and jealousy

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The holidays are here and many of you with blended families, or divorced homes are facing the tactical aspects of juggling families at holiday time. My advice to you is based on having lived through the emotional ups and downs associated with the grief and loss of a divorce and the grief and losses of blending families.The holidays are a warm and wonderful time, but I want to keep you in reality,

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I just want to clarify for those who may not know it. It is possible for you to have a good relationship with your honey's ex.I live in a world of contradictions. On the one hand, my ex-husband has a wife whom I cannot seem to be able to get along with. In all honesty, it is as much my fault as it is hers, in that I am not interested in her happiness at all. There is too much murky water under

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People make fun of Elizabeth Taylor because she has been married so many times. I have not been married quite as often, yet I am starting to see how she must feel. I realize that Liz, each time she married, had no idea that the situation would not last forever. She is most likely an amazingly loyal, romantic and caring woman. It is women such as her who make excellent, adoring wives. I see Liz as

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Do you have a hard time being exposed to your ex's new love interest. I know I did. She and I couldn't be more different, and we have only one thing in common - "him". So, often times I found that my angst about many issues surfaced whenever I was exposed to her. Unfortunately, when you have kids, you are generally exposed to the other person at events where you are expected to act like a lady

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Ever hear about how too many cooks spoil the soup? Well, when divorced people enter the dating scene, too many exes can spoil the relationship. When divorced people meet and date eachother, the number of divorcees multiplies. Not only are you trying to learn about each other, you have the ghosts of marriages past involved, too. Here are some tips for keeping your cool when there may be too many

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Getting back into the dating scene can be very hard. If you came through your divorce a better person for all that you learned that is great, but even the healthiest people have insecurities. Sometimes those insecurities have esteem price tags. When you feel ready to head back into the dating pool, remember to not lose yourself trying to find him. When a woman is dating, she is spending a lot of

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Getting back into the dating scene after a divorce can be hard. It takes time to work through the issues surrounding your break up. You need to repair your esteem, your pocket book and your heart. When you feel the call to put yourself out there, take time to consider what you may encounter. If you are divorced you have, no doubt, been a part of the She Woman, Man Haters' Club. It is a rare thing

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So, you’ve met someone and you would like to take her out. You don’t know much about her, but you do know that she is divorced. Here are five things you should know before dating a divorced woman.1. She’s been put to the test: Emotionally, physically and financially, she has been tested. The divorce process most likely took a toll on her self esteem, her pocketbook and her appearance. If she is

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My oldest daughter is an actress. Actually, she's a musician, artist, author and an actress. She is one of the most amazing creatures I know. She makes me proud. My personal desire for her is that she become a writer for Saturday Night Live. Yes, she is that good. She dreams up amazing characters and delivers them with stunning comedic acting. How does this translate to divorce? When she takes

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I do not know who the author is of this poem, but they know what they are talking about!A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE one old loveshe can imaginegoing back to...and one who remindsher how far she has come...A WOMAN SHOULD HAVEenough money within hercontrol to move out andrent a place of her owneven if she never wantsto or needs to...A WOMAN SHOULD HAVEsomething perfect to wear ifthe employer or date of

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Hi Faydra:Many thanks for your excellent article and wisdom. Everyone who is divorced should understand how best to communicate with their ex, especially when children are involved. Yours is a valuable message.Rosalind Sedacca, CCTAuthor, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce?

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From Anonymous Mom: I'd love to hear your thoughts on dealing with the emotions of your ex spouse getting remarried. I'm having a hard time, especially since I'm not even dating and really have no prospects (not for lack of trying)Thanks for the great question! The thing that I will say is that the benefit for me with his remarriage is that when he is happy, I "get" to be happy. When all is

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Here are the posts from Mother's Day and Father's day. These were originally posted on the Faydra and Company site, but they are still relevant for you today.The Best Mother's Day, I Think..... Well, I can't sleep and I feel the need to write to you to share what I think has been a good Mother's Day; although, I had to fight to make it so.James Arthur Ray is an author and fellow colleague on all

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Divorce is never an easy situation. Even the best of circumstances brings with it a tinge of sadness, fear, anger or resentment. The problem is with the way that divorce is designed in America. Once an attorney, your friends, and your family get involved, mole hills become mountains, sides are taken, and the gloves come off.Think twice before you hate your ex. Think again before you say that word

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When I was recovering from the emotional heartache of my divorce, I went to a therapist for help. I recommend everyone go to a therapist whenever they are facing life's big challenges. I come from the mental health field and, even though I know more than some about the therapeutic world, it is better to see someone who is impartial and can keep you grounded. Your family can't do that, your

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All About Divorce is going to take you on a journey. I am working with a separated woman, who is managing the emotions of divorce. She has graciously allowed me to share with you her issues and how we are going to tackle them together. It is the DIVORCE DIARIES.........Stay tuned for entry #1.

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Chances are you are the type of person who most would call reasonable. You want good things for yourself, your family, society and the world. Heck, you are even trying to go"green". For the most part, you and your ex may get along, as long as you stay away from the sticky issues. But there are post-divorce relationships that just never seem to get past the hurt and anger. No matter how many years

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If you are like me there are times when it is very hard to talk to your ex about anything. It is extremely hard when you are willing to talk and they aren't. It seems like your ex is weilding what little power they hold over you by setting the tone for your conversations.Back in the day, I used to get so angry when my kids' dad would not talk to me. It made me feel controlled, or that I was so

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Divorce is not only an ending, it is a new beginning. Why not mark this beginning with something memorable and fun?! What can you do with yourself or your family to mark this new chapter in your life?I took my children for a photo shoot. I found a secluded place where I run and think, and that has meaning to me and I asked our family photographer to take pictures of me and the girls to mark the

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Good Evening and welcome to the first official post of the new site. I am so glad that you are here.I once heard that you are either a wife or a husband for a finite length of time, but you are an ex-wife or ex-husband forever. I have decided that if I am going to wear that title for the rest of my life, I want to make it a title I am proud of.No matter what, if you are divorced and have children

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Welcome!This blog is a companion blog to the Faydra and Company, Awakening Human Potential, blog. Our purpose here is to help you get out of the mire and the muck of divorce and to find that divorce does not have to be hellish. This blog will deliver helpful hints, uplifting concepts and open dialogue about all things divorce, with the caveat of focusing on successful post-divorce relationships.

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